Well, I didn't think this would really happen. Little Hope's birthfather would like to come for a visit. We really don't know much about him. Ok, we know nothing about him except his first name. Hope's birthmom told him that she would let us know and she gave us his e-mail. We are still deciding on what to do.
I really never thought about him wanting to visit. At first he didn't even want to belive that Hope was his. I can only imagine how he felt being only 18 and going off to college and to find out that there is a baby. He wasn't there for the pregnacy or birth. I have one picture of him.
With adoption you mostly only hear about the birthmom and having a realtionship with her. I have to confess that is what I have thought and cared about. I've never really thought about the birthfather. Now that we have his e-mail address, it is up to us. We are praying about it. I'm not sure why I am hesitating. But I am.
Anyone have thoughts about birthfathers?
3 comments:
It's hard for us 'outsiders' to give advice on this. You have to do what you are comfortable with and what you feel in your gut. My first instinct is 'no way!' but my thought-through is answer is, ya know what? Without him your Hope wouldn't be in your life. Don't you kind of owe it to him?
I agree with Yaya. It is such a hard thing to deal with. I know if my son had a baby, I would want him to be a part of the babys life. BUT, on the other hand, you don't know this boy or his family.
Just take your time it is not like your daughter is asking to see him. Once you open that door for him things could change.
Hi Carey! I just found your blog ;-)
I don't have any advice about birthfathers...all I can suggest is something you are already doing, pray.
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